Letting Go

I was really touched by the strength and faith of my friend this past week. It has not been an easy one for her, and there were the days when she, like anyone else would, felt her strength failing. To lose someone so close to you in such a manner is debilitating and would be for anyone. Yet, when I spoke to her and to the other girls, I recognised that she had a strength and a fabulousness that perhaps we had taken for granted.
To read the article in the Guardian today - a report on the funeral - and the family's call for peace, not vengeance, and their ability to forgive, is so powerful. How many times have you been wronged by someone - a boss, a friend, a boyfriend - and held on to that resentment, watering it with time? Thinking on how things so small can become such powerful vessels of hate and negativity, and comparing it to something like this, which far outweighs any devious act by a supervisor or a cheating boyfriend, makes one wonder, why couldn't I let it go?

As I have gotten older, I have learnt to let things go. Whether I would be willing to let something like this go is something I never want to have tested. But my belief is God will judge. My belief is justice takes place in its own time, one way or another. Resentment is a tie that binds you forever to that person. You are more likely to be joined to the hip emotionally and spiritually to your accused when you keep resentment alive. Freedom comes from letting go. Still, it cannot be easy and now the healing begins.

I am grateful to have such awesome people in my life